This is for all the jaden’s (and shawn’s) out there. LOL. Just some evidence to back up the pop lit claims…
“Proponents of the nice guy stereotype argue that women often say they wish to date kind, sensitive men, but, in reality, still choose to date macho men over nice guys, especially if the macho men are more physically attractive…results supported the nice guy stereotype. Lower levels of agreeableness predicted more less-committed, casual, sexual relationships.”
Urbaniak, Geoffrey C; Kilmann, Peter R. Niceness and dating success: A further test of the nice guy stereotype. [References]. [Journal; Peer Reviewed Journal] Sex Roles. Vol 55(3-4) Aug 2006, 209-224.
“The purpose of this study was to investigate why some women report a desire to date nice guys but prefer dating jerks. Specifically, young women’s dating choices based on their reasons for dating in general and the attractive/unattractive traits that they perceive that a man possesses were explored… reasons for dating (i.e., not wanting physical contact, wanting stimulating conversation, and wanting an exclusive relationship) and perceived personality traits (i.e., sweet/nice and physically attractive) influence a young woman’s desire to date a nice guy, and that perceived personality traits are better predictors of her choice of a man to date than are reasons for dating.”
McDaniel, Anita K. Young women’s dating behavior: Why/why not date a nice guy? [References]. [Journal; Peer Reviewed Journal] Sex Roles. Vol 53(5-6) Sep 2005, 347-359.
“As hypothesized, women who placed a lesser emphasis on the importance of sex, who had fewer sexual partners, and who were less accepting of men who had many sexual partners were more likely to choose the nice guy as a dating partner. The findings indicate that nice guys are likely to have fewer sexual partners but are more desired for committed relationships.”
Herold, Edward S; Milhausen, Robin R. Dating preferences of university women: An analysis of the nice guy stereotype. [References]. [Journal; Peer Reviewed Journal] Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy. Vol 25(4) Oct-Dec 1999, 333-343.
And for some reason, girls just like to find nice guys to whine about jerks, because while they are nice enough to whine to, they just aren’t all that nice enough to qualify as a mate…who ever cares about how the nice guys feel huh??? lol (i assume i’m nice :P)